Nelly Furtado Reflects on Abusive Relationship During Call Her Daddy

Nelly Furtado Recalls Getting Out of Past Relationship With Abusive QualitiesDia Dipasupil/Getty Images

Nelly Furtado got real about experiencing “abusive qualities” in a past relationship — and why that breakup was so hard.

“I went through a very difficult time where I think I accepted some things that I would never accept now in terms of the way you’re treated,” Furtado, 45, said during her “Call Her Daddy” podcast episode, released on Wednesday, November 13. “Sometimes we just love so hard.”

The “I’m Like a Bird” singer stayed vague about her experience, not sharing any hints about who she was referring to but recalled “feeling powerless” in the relationship.

“We’re quite vulnerable when we become mothers, because we just want what’s best for our kids, and we want to protect them,” she explained.

Furtado shares daughter Nevis Gahunia with ex Jasper Gahunia, from whom she split in 2005. She was married to Demacio Castellon from 2008 to 2016. In 2021, the singer revealed that she was also a mother to another daughter and son, whose names haven’t been publicly revealed, with ex Gerard Damien Long.

Song Lyrics Inspired by Celebrity Breakups

Related: Song Lyrics Inspired by Celebrity Breakups

From Taylor Swift and Jake Gyllenhaal to Britney Spears and Justin Timberlake, Us Weekly is revisiting the most famous song lyrics inspired by celebrity breakups. Swift, for her part, has always been open about her writing about her ex-boyfriends. “If guys don’t want me to write bad songs about them, they shouldn’t do bad things,” the […]

“You could have all the money in the world and all the resources, but in the mind, really that is your only wealth. In your mind,” an emotional Furtado said during Wednesday’s podcast episode. The singer explained why someone might not “feel strong enough and clear enough” to remove themselves from a certain romantic situation.

Nelly Furtado Recalls Getting Out of Past Relationship With Abusive QualitiesMathew Tsang/Getty Images

“I think that it’s honest to say that it is hard when you’re in a relationship that has that imbalance … and abusive qualities,” she continued. “It is hard to see outside of it because you isolate yourself, you stop talking to your friends, you don’t tell your friends the truth about what’s going on in your life, you live in a bubble, and it’s hard to admit that you have chosen to not say anything. It’s hard to admit to yourself.”

She mentioned “love” as the reason people stay — and have a hard time moving on.

“Once we’ve fallen in love, we tend to, we sacrifice ourselves sometimes, and we think we’re doing the right thing,” Furtado said.

The “Maneater” singer explained why her past relationship and subsequent breakup had a profound impact.

Thank You!

You have successfully subscribed.

“I think I just had that feeling like I had finally kind of arrived at that Yellow Brick Road and it was like gonna be that for me,” she said. “Then it turned out that it wasn’t, and that’s why it hit so hard.”

As for her relationship status now, Furtado said she has “been single for a couple of years.” But that doesn’t mean she’s off the market.

“I’m dating, but I’m dating different people,” she said. “There’s different potentialities and there’s different levels of interest and just, kind of, romance in different areas.”

Related Posts

Jonathan Majors’ Ex-Girlfriend Drops ᴀssault and Defamation Lawsuit

Jonathan Majors’ Ex-Girlfriend Drops ᴀssault and Defamation Lawsuit

Jonathan Majors. (PH๏τo by Barry Brecheisen/Getty Images) Jonathan Majors’ ex-girlfriend Grace Jabbari has dropped a federal lawsuit, in which she accused the actor of ᴀssault and defamation….

John Stamos Defends Wearing Bald Cap To Support Dave Coulier

John Stamos Defends Wearing Bald Cap To Support Dave Coulier

(PH๏τo by Getty) John Stamos is defending his decision to wear a bald cap while visiting his Full House costar Dave Coulier after the actor announced he…

Stephen Nedoroscik, Rylee Arnold Talk Viral DWTS Glᴀsses Toss

Stephen Nedoroscik, Rylee Arnold Talk Viral DWTS Glᴀsses Toss

RYLEE ARNOLD, STEPHEN NEDOROSCIK Disney/Eric McCandless Stephen Nedoroscik and Rylee Arnold are sharing the story behind the Olympian’s viral mid-dance glᴀsses moment during the Dancing With the…

Eva Amurri recalls ‘almond mom’ Susan Sarandon’s strict diet rules when she was growing up

Eva Amurri recalls ‘almond mom’ Susan Sarandon’s strict diet rules when she was growing up

Susan Sarandon’s daughter Eva Amurri has revealed a surprising detail about how the Oscar-winning actress raised her. The 39-year-old actress told parenting magazine She Knows that her…

John Stamos reveals the reason he didn’t shave head in solidarity with ailing Full House co-star Dave Coulier

John Stamos reveals the reason he didn’t shave head in solidarity with ailing Full House co-star Dave Coulier

John Stamos is explaining why he didn’t shave his head to support his longtime friend and Full House costar Dave Coulier, who was recently diagnosed with cancer….

Christina Aguilera looks unrecognizable on red carpet amid Ozempic and facelift rumors

Christina Aguilera looks unrecognizable on red carpet amid Ozempic and facelift rumors

Christina Aguilera looked nearly unrecognizable as she showcased her slim figure while attending a ribbon-cutting ceremony for H&M in New York City on Thursday.  The Genie In…